Best wishes for you and yours on Labor Day!
love, k ❤
Best wishes for you and yours on Labor Day!
love, k ❤
Happiness starts with Commitment. Whether it’s to your marriage vows, or loyalty to your significant other, an employer, a friend, family members, or to raising a child, success begins with the intention, the integrity, the determination to keep up with the relationship.
One thing that factors into any relationship is the power of choice.
We can choose successful relationships, which are built on a foundation of commitment, trust, exchange, a communication of looks, words, touch, scent, even connection is made, subtle or overt. A relationship has begun. Just as the secret of success in Real Estate is “Location, Location, Location,” in relationships it’s “Communication, Communication, Communication.”
Understanding and respecting the other person’s perspective, even if you don’t agree, and being willing to listen are essential if you want a harmonious relationship with anyone.
Love is the experience of selflessness within oneself and love is the power beyond the being because love is the totality of the being. There is no happiness without love.
love, krishna (kelly) 🙂
Healthy communication is important in every relationship, but especially after trust has been broken. When you are able to talk honestly with your significant other and feel that your partner, and you should feel secure in being open and honest then here are a few tips for healthy relationship.
Be on the same team. Your relationship may not look the same on the “other side,” but it is possible to build something new. It’s encouraged for both to be focused on building that new relationship together.
Stay “present-oriented.” One of the most difficult things about rebuilding trust is staying in the present moment and building toward the future, rather than living in or worrying about the past.
Trust yourself and intuition. This might be the most important thing to do. Learning to trust yourself, your own feelings, and that you’ll be protected moving forward is key to having a healthy relationship with anyone.
Before we can open to the flow of the Universe, we have to be open and honest with our self. We have to accept our self, and able to say, I trust myself, I love myself, I am myself. With that, everything flows toward you because you are vibrating as you.
What is Infidelity? It is the breaking of trust that occurs when you deliberately keep intimate, meaningful secrets from your primary romantic partner.
I developed this definition because it focuses not on specific sexual behaviors, but on what ultimately matters most to a betrayed partner – the loss of relationship trust. That is the core of infidelity, and it is what must be repaired when cheaters hope to salvage a deeply damaged primary relationship. In fact, after more than 10 years as a behavioral therapist, I can state undeniably that the process of healing a relationship damaged by infidelity begins and ends with the restoration of trust. Moreover, to repair relationship trust, cheaters must not only come clean — in a general way, with the guidance of an experienced couple’s counselor about what they have done, they must also become painstaking honest about all other aspects of their life, both in the moment and moving forward. If or when your partner has NO willingness to work on this issue, it is NOT safe to move forward with them and no willingness equals no success.
Needless to say, this type of rigorous honesty is neither easy nor fun. And many cheaters will opt for a different approach, which is to continue lying but to try to do it more effectively. This tactic can work, too — for a while. But it does not address the underlying issues that led to the infidelity. Plus, cheaters who fail to get honest about their behavior tend to continue that behavior, no matter how devastating it has already been to their primary relationship. So if a cheater wants to finish off his or her primary relationship once and for all, continued lying is an effective way to go about it.
I truly believe that you could restore trust after infidelity if both partners are willing. But what happens when the other partner is NOT willing and still in denial, And the injured spouse or significant other chooses to move on to heal first from the betrayal and then the time comes where you do desire to open up to someone new in the present or future?
How do you know if this new person is going to repeat the infidelity betrayal cycle or maybe it is true that you could find or attract someone who has potential to remain monogamous and dedicated to one person which can be so helpful to restore trust again in life itself.
Where this post is going is really about How can you Trust again?
Once trust has been betrayed, most people will be less trusting the
next time. The degree of mistrust that is engendered varies between
individuals and with the sensitivity of a particular betrayal. Working professionally as an intuitive for over a decade and growing up in a military, law enforcement, and detective type of family, It is funny now how my ex-thought he could get away with what he was trying to get away with… But also being a clear empath the energy that was transferred into my aura and electromagnetic field, i must say that from an energetic perspective infidelity can be dangerous for the sensitive. However, over a period of time, your trust can be rebuilt with repeated positive experiences. For example, if your husband, boyfriend, lover, significant other is unfaithful, you won’t initially trust the next man you date. But, when a man consistently demonstrates his reliability, actions speak louder than words. These common but painful human experiences contribute to your growth and development.
Trust is at the core of all meaningful relationships. Without trust, there can be no giving, no bonding, no risk-taking.
Here are a few suggestions on how to Trust again…
1. The more slowly that trust returns, the better; slow trust is more likely to have a solid and durable foundation.
2. Be patient with yourself. Your trusting nature is not lost; it’s just a little bruised.
3. Those who are worthy of your trust, they have at least an intuitive understanding of this: Three of the four positive attachment emotions—interest, compassion, and love—are unconditional in healthy relationships.
4. But the fourth, trust, must be earned over time.
5. Focus on self-compassion and then on compassion for others, and you’ll find that trust will sneak up on you, in its own good time.
6. Last but not least…. This is the most important… TRUST YOUR INTUITION.
Sending so much love, peace, and light,
krishna shoshana aka kelly
A broken heart and pained soul wants to give up on love altogether.
The reason to give love another shot, We’ve learned, is that by loving better and deeper, we become even more whole. Our hurt and tears clear the fog around our heart and illuminate the soul. The journey to love is a journey to one’s self, your highest, most sacred and loving self.
Here are a few ways to open up to love again.
Let go of pain.
You can’t let go of pain by resisting it. You could avoid the pain for some time, but in order to move forward you must fully embrace the pain. Embracing the pain means experiencing loss, grief and sadness.
The only way to stop blaming others is to forgive them. No matter how grave the offense or how unacceptable their behavior, your healing begins when you let go. Yes, it was unfair; yes, it was injustice; and yes, they did you wrong. But there’s nothing to be done now but forgive.
Let go of resistance.
Although love can be painful and heart-breaking, be willing to open your heart anyway. Love can only bloom if you’re open to love in your life. Set the intention for love to enter again. Be open to meeting new people, be open to being vulnerable, and be open to falling in love again.
Let go of shutting down.
When you close your heart and feelings to others, you may avoid pain but you’ll also miss out on happiness and joy. Seek to be your most honest self. Instead of shutting down, be yourself in the world, which will only make you more attractive. By being true to yourself, you’ll also attract people who are a better fit for you.
Let go of your blocks keeping you from experiencing divine love. Let go and choose love again.
Having done a lot of inner work (by means of cognitive therapy, music therapy, specialization therapy, regression therapy, healing, meditation, yoga, channeling) we thought we kind of knew our dark parts and had more or less transcended them. Well we were mistaken! It took a year for us to realise that it is wiser for us to embrace and make peace with the dark side, rather than fight it, because fighting it made it worse while accepting it, finally, gave a deep sense of relief and a new awareness of the miracle of life.
We are fascinated with how the decision is made of what to wear on your wedding day, and so in the spirit of all things, bridal, we share our dress story with you today!
Everyone approaches their Special Day differently, so the fashion and style decisions could not be more different for different brides. This was a time ultimately our top priority was to make amazing memories, and to start the dress journey with an initial visit to a local Indian bridal shop, BEAUTY Dreams Collections. Several shapes and styles helped narrow down what we were looking for. We narrowed our focus to a red wedding dress instead of a white one, and we planned on having an Indian wedding which it is common for the bride to wear a gorgeous red dress for Anand Karaj. We found the dress during our second appointment at Dreams Collections in Little India, in Artesia California.
Indian Bridal Outfit
The most memorable part of an Indian wedding is witnessing the beauty and elegance of the Bride on her special day. With all the sparkle glitz and glamour going on around her, the Bride maintains to be the central focal point of the wedding day. The Bridal Saree or Lengha is decorated with embroidery and intricate designs, making for an eye-catching and exquisite piece of design.
Different regions in India require the Bride to wear certain jewelry or wrap her saree in a specific manner. It is common for Bride’s to place Bindi’s, circular diamond, red or white , above the eyebrows, however the area between the eyebrows remains empty until the wedding ceremony; the Groom places Sindhoor, red vermillion, here during the wedding ceremony. The Bride’s hands and feet are decorated in Mendhi, completing a head to toe transformation for the blissful day.
Punjabi Bridal Suit
The Sikh wedding ceremony is known as Anand Karaj which means blissful union ... Most women will wear traditional Punjabi dress in bright colors or gorgeous crimson red. Punjabi Brides wear a Salwar Kameez, an extremely opulent pant suit, or lengha. Traditionally, Punjabi Brides are said to wear gold jewelry, however with changing times various styles of jewelry as been adapted. The bride wears white and dark red bangles made of ivory known as Chooda.
In Gujurati weddings, Brides typically wear a Saree however it is tied with the Palav, the rest of the Saree material that isn’t wrapped around the Bride’s waist, facing the front.
South Indians on the other hand wear different type of Saree made of silk material with gold bordered lining, a more traditional take on Bridal wear.
Hindu Bridal Wear
The traditional Hindu Bride is said to wear a red outfit symbolically referencing the planet Mars. According to astrology, Mars is the planet in charge of marriages, representing prosperity and fertility. Bridal attire is the bride draping her Saree which is wrapped around the waste whereas a lengha is a skirt that you can slip on.
Outstanding Outfits for Ordinary to Extraordinary Days!
Family holiday is one of the most greatest moments in the year that you want to remember with photographs.
It’s a great time to document your family story because you are all together, having fun, you visit new places, and you have time. Preserving those memories is fantastic for the older and younger kids too, to know what they were a part of. And how enjoyable is it to look at the photo album and retrieve the good memories throughout the year! But if you want to get some good snapshots, ones that you will love to go back to, you need to think a little bit in advance and prepare here are a few suggestions on How To Take Better Family Pictures.
1. Have fun. Look for unique angles such as carefully climbing high above your subjects, or getting the camera low to the ground for a change in viewpoint. Take both video and stills when you do this for more variety.
2. We’ve all run out of power at one point in time or another but doing so while traveling can be crushing. Make sure your batteries are fresh (if your camera uses Alkaline batteries) and fully charged (if your camera uses rechargeable Li-ion ones)
3. Bring extra media cards. You don’t want to face the decision of having to delete images or video clips to make room for new ones in the middle of your vacation.
4. Shoot your food! It’s simple to take a fabulous shot of a mouth-watering plate of food by zooming in tight on the dish. This is a fun photo you can take to remember the delicacies you enjoyed on your trip.
5. Take a variety of photos: This will help you tell a more complete story of your trip.