Thinking back on when my life
was a mess, I would blame the Universe. Over and over I would say, “Why me? What have I done to deserve this? It’s unfair. Why does this happen to me all the time?”
Then I read THE SECRET. The Secret introduced me to the Law of Attraction and I believed that this was how I could get the Universe to work for me rather than against me. I didn’t know much about the Law of Attraction. I didn’t really understand how it worked or how it was connected to the Universe. I thought the Universe was a space where if I sent out positive thoughts I would get positive results.
During the time of reading the Secret I lost my job, my car, my home, and my ex-husband at the time. I was devastated and I felt I was a failure. I gave up reading the Secret or thinking about the Law of Attraction. Its funny though, when you feel your life is at rock bottom and you come to a point where you have a choice – do I continue on with this downward spiral or do I try and figure a way out of this?
The easier option is to do nothing but I chose to try and figure a way out. I decided to put the Law of Attraction and the teachings of the Secret to the test. I set out to manifest my perfect job according to how I thought it should be done. I did find a job eventually but I took the job for all the wrong reasons. I knew this job was not for me the moment I went into the interview. I did not listen to my intuition. I had made a deal with the Universe to using the 3 step formula (ask, believe, and receive) from the Secret to manifest this perfect job into my life. This was the first job offer so this must be the one and I took it.
Three months later I quit the job. I found myself again, feeling like a failure, zero self-esteem, zero confidence and very little self-belief. Again I had to pull myself out of this deep hole and start over.
The question I asked myself was; “How could I get the Universe to listen and work for me rather than against me?”
I discovered that my relationship with the Universe now operates on these four laws – action, consequence, positive energy and the power of choice.
When you start working with the universal laws that resonate with you. You will find overtime that the Universe will respond and start working with you to achieve all that you desire in life. I began to see why some people including me never achieved positive results because the conscious thoughts which are positive are not aligned to the unconscious beliefs, habits and values. When you are not aligned in your mind, body and soul although your conscious mind desires greatness your subconscious will block it.
Once I understood how to work with the different energies that are the essential elements of setting and achieving goals I felt more confident about my abilities and myself. I also found that I began to have more positive experiences in my life and my relationship with the Universe improved. Over time I stopped bargaining with the Universe and became more open to receiving from the universe.
Events can happen in our lives that are traumatic and painful. It is times like these that it becomes very hard to be positive and upbeat about life especially when you feel so bad. There are also times in our life where we just feel sad or frustrated. I was spending too much time focusing on having to be positive and feeling good that I was not dealing with my feelings of sadness, grief, pain and fear.
I do agree that maintaining a positive attitude and outlook about life is powerful and you do have more energy and happiness in life. However ignoring your feelings of pain or sadness only results in you burying these feelings deep within you. These feelings are real. They will not stay buried for long and at some point they will surface.
It’s a fine balance to manage and process these feelings and not get drawn into the vortex of negativity. From my experience I’ve learned and like to share is that you spend time acknowledging your feelings but then move quickly to finding more positive things to focus on in your life. I found that by dealing with my feelings of sadness, pain and grief I became more self aware and more resilient. As a result my thoughts and energies were more aligned and my relationship with the Universe became stronger.
To the Universe, k:)