Meditation For The Positive Mind

Our minds are incredibly powerful tools – even more so than we may realize. Just by thinking something, we can make it more likely to occur. That is a powerful, but dangerous ability. If your thoughts are positive and uplifting, you will increase the likelihood of seeing those dreams through to fruition. If they are negative, however, you can have just the opposite effect. Obviously it is our best interests to keep our minds thinking positively throughout the day, and this meditation will help you do just that.

Meditation For Positive Mind

love, k ♡

Work Smarter Not Harder

You know how sometimes you hear something new and all of a sudden, all you notice and hear for the next weeks is different versions of the same message from the most random sources and places? And after a while you finally start to wonder if the universe is trying to whack you in the head with an important message?

Well, that happens to me often and it isn’t always that random. What usually happens, is soon after I identify an area of growth in my life, the universe conspires to make sure I have all the practice in the world to move through it.

Lately, that area of opportunity has been rethinking my views around success and dismissing-for good- the word hustle from my vocabulary.

I am generally not surprised when I identify things I need to work on in my life. Hustling, however, was not at all on my radar as a potential problem.

I am in all honesty not a fan of hustling anymore as it has gotten me no where in life and I have given up on working so hard and have absolutely nothing to show for it. I like to focus on working smarter not harder.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been convinced hard work and fierce determination were not only some of my best qualities, but the secret behind achievement. Coming from a long-line of hard-working, successful women in my family, I believed hustling was in my DNA.

It wasn’t until recently that I started to question what it meant to be a hustler and if -buzz or no buzz- this was something I wanted to continue to identify with. It was actually brought to my attention by a friend. All she said was: we don’t hustle, ever. Period. She is someone I not only trust but I also admire personally and professionally. I admit I was a little surprised and didn’t fully agree or understood what she meant right away. I thought, it’s just a cool word to describe hard work, what’s the big deal? But it got me thinking… What is the real meaning behind it and what did that say about my belief systems?

When you do a quick google search, hustle is defined as

1. Force (someone) to move hurriedly or unceremoniously in a specified direction.

2. Obtain by forceful action or persuasion.

Although this has never been how I chose to move through the world, it was very hard for me to imagine being able to achieve or be successful without a sense of urgency and a little bit of force -except I preferred to call it determination. I thought you can’t have one without the other: unless you win the lottery, success needs -at least to some extent- hustle.

As soon as I started to question this idea, I began to notice that all the hustlers I knew, regardless of their success, were also exhausted. Not only that, they were leading lives what were out of sync with the type of life I wanted to build for myself. And I didn’t have to go far to find the trail of negative effects of forceful hurry. I had too, on many occasions, paid the price and had been so burnt-out and unhappy, I had zero energy to do any of the things that filled me up. None of the success and achievement in the world was worth the feeling of not being able to participate in my own life.

That is precisely why I had decided to become an entrepreneur in the first place. I knew I wanted happiness, balance, and I definitely also wanted success. The problem was, as far as I could remember, all of my successes had involved a lot of effort and hard work. Now that I was launching the exciting adventure of entrepreneurship, did I really believe it was possible to succeed without hustle, and without burn-out?

As I started to pay attention, I began to wonder. How many more examples were out there, besides my friend, of success without hustle? What were they doing differently and how could I incorporate that into my life?

The second I became ready, I began to witness men and women I admire succeeding and achieving and making a point of doing it without hustle.

I’m happy to report I found plenty of individuals out there achieving without burnout and living happy, successful lives. These kickass humans not only didn’t glorify hustle, but they seemed to have mastered the art of effort without struggle. As a curious student, I began to take note and model the messages and behaviors I wanted in my life. In that process, I realized a few important things.

First and foremost, dismissing hustle doesn’t mean embracing laziness. Successful non-hustlers don’t promote short-cuts, slacking or procrastination. Quite the opposite, they promote working smart and maximizing our talent, time and energy -effort- without overwhelm -struggle.

Second, most of the individuals who no longer hustle, have been on the other side of the spectrum. They have grown tired of compromising sanity and well-being as a condition to succeed. They are now convinced burnout and unhappiness can be common costs of success, but they don’t have to be.

Third, non-hustlers move through all areas of their lives with a playful attitude. They don’t believe busyness and exhaustion should be worn as badges of honour. Nor that pain is the noblest path towards success. Instead, they believe in effort with lightness, trust and joy.

This brings me to my next discovery. If we talk about trust, we need to talk about letting go. Successful non-hustlers know letting go is not only applicable to spiritual and emotional matters, it is practiced in every area of their lives. For the longest time, I’ve lived by the mantra: focus on the effort, let go of the outcome. When it came to entrepreneurship, however, I wasn’t too keen on letting go and hustling seemed like the safer choice. I didn’t realize that was in total contradiction of my belief systems and more importantly, it wouldn’t work.

Ultimately, we all have the freedom to choose how we want to live our lives and run our businesses. I have made the decision I want to be successful and I want to be happy, and the best way for me to do that is to be like a smooth rock.

I heard a man recently talk about striving to be like a rock in the river. In his hand he had two rocks, one that was perfectly shaped and smooth. The other was rough and full of pointy edges. In the river, water gently moves around the smooth rock and continues to flow with ease. The hard rock, however, is in a constant fight with the river. The sharp edges catch the water constantly, interrupting its flow. Both rock and river struggle.

In life -entrepreneurs or not- we can learn to be like either rock. We will always be responsible for the effort we put into what we want out of life. If we choose to be smooth, however, we can do it with a lot less struggle. And, I am now convinced, that doesn’t need to be mutually exclusive from success. Hustle implies force, like the sharp rock, draining a lot more energy than necessary. Energy that could be best spent innovating, creating, producing, engaging in meaningful partnerships, moving forward.

All of that said, perhaps the most powerful reason of all to avoid hustle is because we want to live happier lives. And aren’t happy people what make businesses thrive?
As a young entrepreneur, I not only strive to be the best boss for myself, I also want to be the best employer. That, I believe, will require a lot of smoothness and achievement with plenty of grace and joy. That leaves zero room for hustle. And that, from now on, is the only way I wish to succeed.

love, k ❤

Could You Really “Do What You Love” These Days?

I have always loved music. I received music awards in high school. So it’s not a surprise that I started college as a music major. It was a mercifully short experiment. As I like to say, I majored in music until I discovered that there was an uncertainty generating money in the future for a job by majoring in the field of music. Simply  “doing what I loved” would have been a poor career advice for me. And yet, it is advice I have always followed. Is doing what you love a ridiculous concept in this economy? 

It seems to me now to “do what you love” is one of the worst pieces of career advice ever. Today’s economy, coupled with endless media coverage about the best-paying jobs  and the need to pursue a “practical” education,  seems to give lie to this classic career advice.

So where did this controversial advice begin? Like its companion philosophy, Follow Your Bliss...the philosophy of “do what you love” has been around for centuries, dating back to early spiritual texts. And also just putting down the book Do What You Love and the Money Will Follow has some responsibility for promoting the much heralded phrase.

Unfortunately most job seekers haven’t read her book, and the phrase has been turned into a bumper sticker, devoid of meaning and potentially dangerous in its simplicity. It reminds me of another common piece of advice, “Leap and the net will appear.” Yes, sometimes it does. And sometimes you just crash.

In the introduction to this book I was reading lately it isn’t suggesting in any way that doing what one loves means doing what one feels like doing. She describes people who are still waiting for the money to follow: an actress who has yet to catch her break; students enrolled in “tedious, often boring” graduate studies they hope will propel them to what they love; a painter who, knowing it will take years to master her craft, works at a day job and paints on weekends.

I am reminded of a quote from one of my favorite movies, The Peaceful Warrior  “A warrior does not give up what she loves. She finds the love in what she does. There are compromises and creative solutions along the path to doing what we love to do. To find the love in what we do. Money doesn’t just “follow” we must do the work first, invest in ourselves, and gradually see the results of our efforts. Finding the love in what we do in all aspects of our lives might be the best way to move forward in today’s career path. It’s all about mindfulness.

Take a few minutes and ask yourself if you have found your right livelihood. Are you pursuing what you love? or have you found the love in what you do? Because it might be that doing a less-than-ideal job that puts food on your family’s table is one aspect of the love you can find in it. And then you can begin to seek openings for what else you can love. Even in this economy there are ways to incorporate what you love into what you do. Because the truth is you probably love many things. I know I do. Once music was off the table, I shaped my career around other loves. Psychology. Writing. Literature. Art. Teaching. Counseling. Films. and YOGA.

It seems that our right livelihood will evolve over the years, that is, in a mindful way. Do what you love can be the best or the worst career advice depending on your self-awareness and mindfulness..

love, k

 

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Intuitive Affirmation of the Day

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Sat Nam Fest West 2018

Sat Nam Fest Joshua Tree is finally here! And it is an opportunity to immerse yourself in the happiness, rejuvenation, and transformation of Kundalini Yoga, mantra music, and creativity as you re-discover your authentic self.

Every year Sat Nam Fest presents a variety of sacred music performances, teachers, workshops, Kundalini Yoga classes, and much more.

See you there!

love, k 🙂

 

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Flexible Spine Equals Flexible Mind

One of the most basic goals of Kundalini Yoga is to take care of the spine. Spinal flex offers a series of exercises (a kriya) to activate, align and loosen up the spine.

Lower back pain and upper back stress are some of the most common health complaints of adults. The best way to avoid backaches is to take care of your spine on a daily basis. There are no quick fixes for back pain, but spinal flexes is an effective maintenance program.

How to Do It:

Sit in easy pose. Grab the ankles. As you inhale powerfully, flex the spine forward, keeping the shoulders relaxed and the head straight. Do not move the head up and down. Exhale and relax the spine back. Continue rhythmically with deep breaths. As you inhale feel the energy go down the spine. As you exhale feel it come back up to the third eye. Mentally bring SAT down and NAM back up the spine.

love, krishna k 🙂

Laws of the Universe

Thinking back on when my life

was a mess, I would blame the Universe. Over and over I would say, “Why me? What have I done to deserve this? It’s unfair. Why does this happen to me all the time?”

Then I read THE SECRET. The Secret introduced me to the Law of Attraction and I believed that this was how I could get the Universe to work for me rather than against me. I didn’t know much about the Law of Attraction. I didn’t really understand how it worked or how it was connected to the Universe. I thought the Universe was a space where if I sent out positive thoughts I would get positive results.

During the time of reading the Secret I lost my job, my car, my home, and my ex-husband at the time. I was devastated and I felt I was a failure. I gave up reading the Secret or thinking about the Law of Attraction. Its funny though, when you feel your life is at rock bottom and you come to a point where you have a choice – do I continue on with this downward spiral or do I try and figure a way out of this?

The easier option is to do nothing but I chose to try and figure a way out. I decided to put the Law of Attraction and the teachings of the Secret to the test. I set out to manifest my perfect job according to how I thought it should be done. I did find a job eventually but I took the job for all the wrong reasons. I knew this job was not for me the moment I went into the interview. I did not listen to my intuition. I had made a deal with the Universe to using the 3 step formula (ask, believe, and receive) from the Secret to manifest this perfect job into my life. This was the first job offer so this must be the one and I took it.

Three months later I quit the job. I found myself again, feeling like a failure, zero self-esteem, zero confidence and very little self-belief. Again I had to pull myself out of this deep hole and start over.

The question I asked myself was; “How could I get the Universe to listen and work for me rather than against me?”

I discovered that my relationship with the Universe now operates on these four laws – action, consequence, positive energy and the power of choice.

When you start working with the universal laws that resonate with you. You will find overtime that the Universe will respond and start working with you to achieve all that you desire in life. I began to see why some people including me never achieved positive results because the conscious thoughts which are positive are not aligned to the unconscious beliefs, habits and values. When you are not aligned in your mind, body and soul although your conscious mind desires greatness your subconscious will block it.
Once I understood how to work with the different energies that are the essential elements of setting and achieving goals I felt more confident about my abilities and myself. I also found that I began to have more positive experiences in my life and my relationship with the Universe improved. Over time I stopped bargaining with the Universe and became more open to receiving from the universe.

Events can happen in our lives that are traumatic and painful. It is times like these that it becomes very hard to be positive and upbeat about life especially when you feel so bad. There are also times in our life where we just feel sad or frustrated. I was spending too much time focusing on having to be positive and feeling good that I was not dealing with my feelings of sadness, grief, pain and fear.

I do agree that maintaining a positive attitude and outlook about life is powerful and you do have more energy and happiness in life. However ignoring your feelings of pain or sadness only results in you burying these feelings deep within you. These feelings are real. They will not stay buried for long and at some point they will surface.

It’s a fine balance to manage and process these feelings and not get drawn into the vortex of negativity. From my experience I’ve learned and like to share is that you spend time acknowledging your feelings but then move quickly to finding more positive things to focus on in your life. I found that by dealing with my feelings of sadness, pain and grief I became more self aware and more resilient. As a result my thoughts and energies were more aligned and my relationship with the Universe became stronger.

To the Universe, k:)