Intuitive Psychology: Take the Path of Least Resistance

The law of least effort goes by many names such as going with the flow, to name a couple, but the path of least resistance is a theme we hear about in many spiritual texts. At first, it may go against everything you have ever believed was true about following your dreams and achieving your goals. Is this concept actually implying that doing LESS work, putting in LESS effort will help us achieve things faster? Not exactly.

The path of least resistance does not suggest that you take NO action, but that you take PERFECT action. For example, the biggest thing we can observe applying the path of least resistance is nature. Everything in nature has a sole purpose, and 100% of the time, without fail, each thing in nature sticks to their purpose and therefore takes perfect action.

A tree grows towards the sun, takes in carbon dioxide and releases oxygen… always. A bee pollinates flowers or makes honey…. always. You wouldn’t see a tree struggling to swim like a fish or a bear struggling to be like a cloud. Each thing knows its purpose and place in the grand scheme of things, so no effort is put forth into being something that doesn’t come naturally.

However, don’t worry if you don’t know what the “perfect” action is for your life. As Eckhart Tolle says, Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for your evolution of consciousness. How do you know that this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment. Which means that every action is perfect, nothing ever goes wrong per se.

We create problems for ourselves when we sit in resistance of a situation, we believe in our heads that things should go a certain way and when they don’t go that way we are frustrated.

Or when a situation has repeatedly shown us that things are not working out, we may continually try to force what we believe to be the way things should go on people, places or things only to be disappointed over and over.

The greatest thing about the flow of our lives is that it is always trying to push us forward. We create dams and blockages for ourselves by our limited belief systems. So how do we know if we are following the flow or going against it?

Here is some path of least resistance suggestions:

1. Am I listening to my thoughts about a situation or my body’s signals?
Your thoughts will lie to you. They will tell you eating a quart of ice cream is a good idea & then after you do it, they will tell you that you should be ashamed of yourself. Your body-mind cannot lie, it’s the tension you feel in your body when you are around certain people, the upset stomach you get when you are in a stressful situation, the tightness in your chest you get when someone or something makes you uneasy, and so on.. When you pay attention to your bodies signals instead of your thoughts you can decipher which situations make you FEEL good which will guide you only to things that are ultimately going to make you more fulfilled and happier.

 

2. Do I accept situations as they are or do I find myself wishing people/places/things would change to meet my expectations?
There are going to be things in life we cannot change. We can’t change who is in our family, we can’t change the past, we can’t change the way another person behaves. When we learn to see the difference between which things in our life we can change vs. which things in our life are unchangeable, we learn the power of acceptance. Also, we empower ourselves to change things in our life that make us unhappy and accept the situations that we can do nothing about. When we accept things we cannot change, we allow ourselves inner peace because we are not living in the how we think things “should be”, and instead are living in the how things are.

 

3. Am I motivated by fear or love?
When love is behind our actions we will know it. We will feel good and happy and joyful when we are engaged in those activities. Fear is tricky because many times it will disguise itself as love. For example, a person may stay in an unhealthy relationship for too long under the guise of “but I love him/her.” Even though they know they are unhappy and the other person is as well, the fear of not wanting to be alone outshines the love they should be showing to themselves.

When we switch our motivation to love we naturally attract situations to us that make us feel good. Being in love with life will help us progress with the forward flow of life more quickly than staying in unhealthy situations a little too long.

 

4. Am I too attached to the “how” something will happen instead of the “what” I want to happen?
This is a huge one. Our ego/thoughts are always trying to make sense of everything, so when we choose a specific goal that we are trying to work towards our mind automatically starts coming up with a plan of how it is going to happen. And if a goal sounds too unreachable your mind may also tell you to forget about it, it’s not going to happen.

These types of thoughts create roadblocks in our path because if we don’t believe it is achievable, it won’t be. When we follow the path of least resistance here we open ourselves up to limitless possibilities, instead of closing ourselves into exactly how we believe things should happen.

 

5. Can I find purpose in my day to day existence?
It doesn’t matter if you are a garbage man or a stay at home mom… every job has a purpose. When the perspective of our job is how much we hate it we are in resistance all day long. No, it does not mean to work at a job that is unfulfilling your entire life, what it means is that for the time being, while you have to work where you work, enjoy it.

Focus on all the ways what you do helps people, or makes them happier, or makes their life easier. When you see your job in these terms, the day flows faster, because we are happier and sitting in acceptance. Not only that but when we are happy we attract us more opportunities…which may eventually lead us to our dream job. When we go with the flow of our life instead of against it our life runs more smoothly and progresses more quickly.

And the great thing is that it’s never too late to start following the path of least resistance. In fact, it’s probably the easiest thing you can do because you do what comes naturally instead of forcing things to go how you think they should. This path opens us up to the intelligence of the universe instead of the “intelligence” coming from our own ideas and thoughts, which means we become open to the limitless potential that exists in the universe… which can be an amazing thing as long as we allow it.

love, k ❤

 

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CONTACT in the DESERT 2018

The sixth annual CONTACT in the DESERT 2018 has exciting new changes this year with a new amazing venue at Renaissance Indian Wells Resort and Spa with a fascinating line-up of speakers. With a highly active night sky and sacred land, it’s no surprise that we attract our ET friends yet again, this year. Saturday late night had desert views of the Milky Way which was spectacular!

Like-minded people have come together from all over the world in this intimate gathering to explore the science of UFO’s and extraterrestrial life, ancient aliens, human origins, crop circles, government disclosure, UFO sightings, interplanetary living, contact experiences, and the need to know.

It has been an experiment with new ways to describe the relationship to our extraterrestrial friends of the past and present without encouraging fear. We’ve studied the symbols and signs of sacred sites, and have met cutting-edge speakers, scientists, and explorers excited to share their knowledge.

This year CONTACT in the DESERT added more forums, a 360 Dome experience, new Monday Intensives, additional experience’s lounge, a special Star Saturday night event, as well as a chance to join in the Night Vision Fieldwork gathering and so much more! This year many have embraced the ever-expanding, vibrant, international community of friends old and new, who have all united with one common goal – the need to know.

Thank you to CONTACT in the DESERT and to the fellow beings participating in this wonderful event.

love, k ❤

Meditation For The Positive Mind

Our minds are incredibly powerful tools – even more so than we may realize. Just by thinking something, we can make it more likely to occur. That is a powerful, but dangerous ability. If your thoughts are positive and uplifting, you will increase the likelihood of seeing those dreams through to fruition. If they are negative, however, you can have just the opposite effect. Obviously it is our best interests to keep our minds thinking positively throughout the day, and this meditation will help you do just that.

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love, k ♡

Work Smarter Not Harder

You know how sometimes you hear something new and all of a sudden, all you notice and hear for the next weeks is different versions of the same message from the most random sources and places? And after a while you finally start to wonder if the universe is trying to whack you in the head with an important message?

Well, that happens to me often and it isn’t always that random. What usually happens, is soon after I identify an area of growth in my life, the universe conspires to make sure I have all the practice in the world to move through it.

Lately, that area of opportunity has been rethinking my views around success and dismissing-for good- the word hustle from my vocabulary.

I am generally not surprised when I identify things I need to work on in my life. Hustling, however, was not at all on my radar as a potential problem.

I am in all honesty not a fan of hustling anymore as it has gotten me no where in life and I have given up on working so hard and have absolutely nothing to show for it. I like to focus on working smarter not harder.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been convinced hard work and fierce determination were not only some of my best qualities, but the secret behind achievement. Coming from a long-line of hard-working, successful women in my family, I believed hustling was in my DNA.

It wasn’t until recently that I started to question what it meant to be a hustler and if -buzz or no buzz- this was something I wanted to continue to identify with. It was actually brought to my attention by a friend. All she said was: we don’t hustle, ever. Period. She is someone I not only trust but I also admire personally and professionally. I admit I was a little surprised and didn’t fully agree or understood what she meant right away. I thought, it’s just a cool word to describe hard work, what’s the big deal? But it got me thinking… What is the real meaning behind it and what did that say about my belief systems?

When you do a quick google search, hustle is defined as

1. Force (someone) to move hurriedly or unceremoniously in a specified direction.

2. Obtain by forceful action or persuasion.

Although this has never been how I chose to move through the world, it was very hard for me to imagine being able to achieve or be successful without a sense of urgency and a little bit of force -except I preferred to call it determination. I thought you can’t have one without the other: unless you win the lottery, success needs -at least to some extent- hustle.

As soon as I started to question this idea, I began to notice that all the hustlers I knew, regardless of their success, were also exhausted. Not only that, they were leading lives what were out of sync with the type of life I wanted to build for myself. And I didn’t have to go far to find the trail of negative effects of forceful hurry. I had too, on many occasions, paid the price and had been so burnt-out and unhappy, I had zero energy to do any of the things that filled me up. None of the success and achievement in the world was worth the feeling of not being able to participate in my own life.

That is precisely why I had decided to become an entrepreneur in the first place. I knew I wanted happiness, balance, and I definitely also wanted success. The problem was, as far as I could remember, all of my successes had involved a lot of effort and hard work. Now that I was launching the exciting adventure of entrepreneurship, did I really believe it was possible to succeed without hustle, and without burn-out?

As I started to pay attention, I began to wonder. How many more examples were out there, besides my friend, of success without hustle? What were they doing differently and how could I incorporate that into my life?

The second I became ready, I began to witness men and women I admire succeeding and achieving and making a point of doing it without hustle.

I’m happy to report I found plenty of individuals out there achieving without burnout and living happy, successful lives. These kickass humans not only didn’t glorify hustle, but they seemed to have mastered the art of effort without struggle. As a curious student, I began to take note and model the messages and behaviors I wanted in my life. In that process, I realized a few important things.

First and foremost, dismissing hustle doesn’t mean embracing laziness. Successful non-hustlers don’t promote short-cuts, slacking or procrastination. Quite the opposite, they promote working smart and maximizing our talent, time and energy -effort- without overwhelm -struggle.

Second, most of the individuals who no longer hustle, have been on the other side of the spectrum. They have grown tired of compromising sanity and well-being as a condition to succeed. They are now convinced burnout and unhappiness can be common costs of success, but they don’t have to be.

Third, non-hustlers move through all areas of their lives with a playful attitude. They don’t believe busyness and exhaustion should be worn as badges of honour. Nor that pain is the noblest path towards success. Instead, they believe in effort with lightness, trust and joy.

This brings me to my next discovery. If we talk about trust, we need to talk about letting go. Successful non-hustlers know letting go is not only applicable to spiritual and emotional matters, it is practiced in every area of their lives. For the longest time, I’ve lived by the mantra: focus on the effort, let go of the outcome. When it came to entrepreneurship, however, I wasn’t too keen on letting go and hustling seemed like the safer choice. I didn’t realize that was in total contradiction of my belief systems and more importantly, it wouldn’t work.

Ultimately, we all have the freedom to choose how we want to live our lives and run our businesses. I have made the decision I want to be successful and I want to be happy, and the best way for me to do that is to be like a smooth rock.

I heard a man recently talk about striving to be like a rock in the river. In his hand he had two rocks, one that was perfectly shaped and smooth. The other was rough and full of pointy edges. In the river, water gently moves around the smooth rock and continues to flow with ease. The hard rock, however, is in a constant fight with the river. The sharp edges catch the water constantly, interrupting its flow. Both rock and river struggle.

In life -entrepreneurs or not- we can learn to be like either rock. We will always be responsible for the effort we put into what we want out of life. If we choose to be smooth, however, we can do it with a lot less struggle. And, I am now convinced, that doesn’t need to be mutually exclusive from success. Hustle implies force, like the sharp rock, draining a lot more energy than necessary. Energy that could be best spent innovating, creating, producing, engaging in meaningful partnerships, moving forward.

All of that said, perhaps the most powerful reason of all to avoid hustle is because we want to live happier lives. And aren’t happy people what make businesses thrive?
As a young entrepreneur, I not only strive to be the best boss for myself, I also want to be the best employer. That, I believe, will require a lot of smoothness and achievement with plenty of grace and joy. That leaves zero room for hustle. And that, from now on, is the only way I wish to succeed.

love, k ❤

Could You Really “Do What You Love” These Days?

I have always loved music. I received music awards in high school. So it’s not a surprise that I started college as a music major. It was a mercifully short experiment. As I like to say, I majored in music until I discovered that there was an uncertainty generating money in the future for a job by majoring in the field of music. Simply  “doing what I loved” would have been a poor career advice for me. And yet, it is advice I have always followed. Is doing what you love a ridiculous concept in this economy? 

It seems to me now to “do what you love” is one of the worst pieces of career advice ever. Today’s economy, coupled with endless media coverage about the best-paying jobs  and the need to pursue a “practical” education,  seems to give lie to this classic career advice.

So where did this controversial advice begin? Like its companion philosophy, Follow Your Bliss...the philosophy of “do what you love” has been around for centuries, dating back to early spiritual texts. And also just putting down the book Do What You Love and the Money Will Follow has some responsibility for promoting the much heralded phrase.

Unfortunately most job seekers haven’t read her book, and the phrase has been turned into a bumper sticker, devoid of meaning and potentially dangerous in its simplicity. It reminds me of another common piece of advice, “Leap and the net will appear.” Yes, sometimes it does. And sometimes you just crash.

In the introduction to this book I was reading lately it isn’t suggesting in any way that doing what one loves means doing what one feels like doing. She describes people who are still waiting for the money to follow: an actress who has yet to catch her break; students enrolled in “tedious, often boring” graduate studies they hope will propel them to what they love; a painter who, knowing it will take years to master her craft, works at a day job and paints on weekends.

I am reminded of a quote from one of my favorite movies, The Peaceful Warrior  “A warrior does not give up what she loves. She finds the love in what she does. There are compromises and creative solutions along the path to doing what we love to do. To find the love in what we do. Money doesn’t just “follow” we must do the work first, invest in ourselves, and gradually see the results of our efforts. Finding the love in what we do in all aspects of our lives might be the best way to move forward in today’s career path. It’s all about mindfulness.

Take a few minutes and ask yourself if you have found your right livelihood. Are you pursuing what you love? or have you found the love in what you do? Because it might be that doing a less-than-ideal job that puts food on your family’s table is one aspect of the love you can find in it. And then you can begin to seek openings for what else you can love. Even in this economy there are ways to incorporate what you love into what you do. Because the truth is you probably love many things. I know I do. Once music was off the table, I shaped my career around other loves. Psychology. Writing. Literature. Art. Teaching. Counseling. Films. and YOGA.

It seems that our right livelihood will evolve over the years, that is, in a mindful way. Do what you love can be the best or the worst career advice depending on your self-awareness and mindfulness..

love, k

 

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Intuitive Affirmation of the Day

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Sat Nam Fest West 2018

Sat Nam Fest Joshua Tree is finally here! And it is an opportunity to immerse yourself in the happiness, rejuvenation, and transformation of Kundalini Yoga, mantra music, and creativity as you re-discover your authentic self.

Every year Sat Nam Fest presents a variety of sacred music performances, teachers, workshops, Kundalini Yoga classes, and much more.

See you there!

love, k 🙂

 

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Flexible Spine Equals Flexible Mind

One of the most basic goals of Kundalini Yoga is to take care of the spine. Spinal flex offers a series of exercises (a kriya) to activate, align and loosen up the spine.

Lower back pain and upper back stress are some of the most common health complaints of adults. The best way to avoid backaches is to take care of your spine on a daily basis. There are no quick fixes for back pain, but spinal flexes is an effective maintenance program.

How to Do It:

Sit in easy pose. Grab the ankles. As you inhale powerfully, flex the spine forward, keeping the shoulders relaxed and the head straight. Do not move the head up and down. Exhale and relax the spine back. Continue rhythmically with deep breaths. As you inhale feel the energy go down the spine. As you exhale feel it come back up to the third eye. Mentally bring SAT down and NAM back up the spine.

love, krishna k 🙂