Think Outside The Box

Every one has a different world view. Individual perspectives are influenced by a variety of factors. These include our family, our friends, experiences, and the cultures in which we live.

 

Here are a few suggestions of thinking outside the box as it can have a positive effect on your career, education, and even your interpersonal relationships.

 
When an issue seems to have no good solutions, your ability to take a completely different approach could be the key to finding the solution that nobody else can see. This makes you stand out from the crowd because you focus on the result instead of following a prescribed process.

 
You will learn to embrace stepping outside of your comfort zone and develop your critical thinking skills and your creativity. Ultimately, people who think outside the box are more likely to become leaders, and they are more likely to create things that are useful to many people. Anyone who is an entrepreneur is somebody who thinks outside the box. This person can see a problem and they think outside the box to create a better solution for that problem than any that currently exist. They see it as an unmet need, and by thinking outside the box finds a way to meet that need.

 
Do You Have The Ability to Think Outside The Box?

This is just like any other skill for some people it could come naturally, others have to work at it like exercising a muscle. Some people have to work very hard to learn to think outside the box. However, this is a skill that anybody can do and here are a few suggestions.

 
Do things that are creative, even if you aren’t very good at them

 
Watch or read things aren’t your usual choices

 
Experience and explore foreign cuisines, foods, art, culture, and music

 

Revisit an old project and work through it again using a different method or technique

 

Mentally correct yourself when you express things like, “This is the way we’ve always done things.” Change up your routine, and your thoughts

 

Thinking outside the box is about unlocking creativity and encourages others to do the same, bringing forth inspiration and motivation. Mastering the art of thinking outside the box and getting out of the box is key to achieving results.

 

love, #krishna

 

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Intuitive Psychology: Making Sense of Autism Spectrum Disorder

We are slowly beginning to understand that while there may be differences between children with ASD, (Autism Spectrum Disorder) this condition represents significant social, communication and behavioral challenges for children. In a sense, ASD is a single condition with multiple co-occurring problems. These typically include anxiety, attention disorders, and extreme sensory sensitivities. The majority of children with ASD demonstrate developmental concerns well before three years of age.

 

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The term Spectrum is used to define this condition as this reflects the unique manner in which each child can be affected. The term Spectrum also suggests multiple and varied outcomes based on a combination of different symptoms, qualities within the child and, most importantly, experiences at home and in school. The central problem for children with ASD is their inability to interact with and learn about the social world. ASD is truly a social learning disability. Children with ASD have difficulty reading social intention. They have difficulty taking the perspective of others and solving social problems. As such, the day in and day out interaction parents have with children with ASD—whether their symptoms are mild, moderate or severe on a spectrum—makes a significant difference in that child’s life today and into the future.

In Autism Spectrum Disorder research has demonstrated that ASD is best conceptualized as a combination of three core problems: 1) difficulty with socialization and communication; 2) odd interests and behavior; and  3) problems with attention and self-regulation.

Autism Spectrum Disorder is a complex developmental disorder that affects the brain’s normal development of social and communication skills which include impaired social interactions, impaired verbal and nonverbal communication, problems processing information from the senses, and restricted and repetitive patterns of behavior. ASD is an umbrella diagnosis, in the DSM-5, for the four pervasive developmental disorders (autistic disorder, Asperger’s disorder, childhood disintegrative disorder, pervasive developmental disorder)

Autism is found in every country and region of the world and in families of all racial, ethnic, religious, and economic backgrounds, making up roughly 1 percent of the world population. This wide range points to a need for earlier and more accurate screening for the symptoms of ASD. The earlier the disorder is diagnosed, the sooner the child can be helped through treatment interventions. Pediatricians, family physicians, day-care providers, teachers, and parents may initially dismiss signs of ASD, optimistically thinking the child is just a little slow and will catch up. Although early intervention has a dramatic impact on reducing symptoms and increasing a child’s ability to grow and learn new skills, it is estimated that only 50 percent of children are diagnosed before kindergarten.

Symptoms

Social Deficits

Most children with autism have enormous difficulty engaging in everyday human interaction, and even in infancy-the stage in which most babies tend to want to touch and explore other human beings-they keep to themselves and avoid eye contact. They may resist basic forms of affection and may not show anger or pleasure when the parent leaves or returns. Research has suggested that although children with ASD are attached to their parents, their expression of this attachment is difficult to read. To parents, it may seem as if their child is not attached at all. Parents who looked forward to the joys of cuddling, teaching, and playing with their child may feel deeply disappointed by this lack of the expected attachment behavior.

Children with autism have difficulty understanding unspoken social cues.

Subtle social cues—whether a smile, or a wink, may have little meaning. To a child who misses these cues, “come here” always means the same thing, whether the speaker is smiling and extending her arms for a hug or frowning and planting her fists on her hips. Without the ability to interpret gestures and facial expressions, the social world may seem bewildering.

An autistic person may also lack ability to understand things from another’s perspective, making them unable to comprehend or predict other people’s responses to their own actions. Some people with autism also might have difficulty regulating their emotions; they may tend to be physically aggressive or have a lack of impulse control, particularly when they are frustrated or in an overwhelming environment. They may throw things, break things, pull their hair, and hurt themselves or others.

Language Deficits

 

 

Without meaningful gestures or the language to make simple requests, people with ASD are at a loss to let others know what they need. As a result, they may simply grab what they want or scream. Until they are taught better ways to express their needs, ASD children do whatever they can to get through to others. As people with ASD grow up, they can become increasingly aware of their difficulties in understanding others and in being understood. As a result, they may become anxious or depressed.

Sensory Perception Issues

Autistic children tend to be incapable of accurately taking in sensory perception or merging the stimuli into a coherent picture, leading to a baffling experience of the world. Many children with autism are highly attuned or even painfully sensitive to certain sounds, textures, tastes, or smells. Some children find the smell of a certain food cooking so distracting that it becomes their entire focus. For others, a gentle pat on the head may be terrifying. Some sounds—a vacuum cleaner, a ringing telephone, a sudden storm, even the sound of waves lapping the shoreline—will cause these children to cover their ears and scream.

 

 

 Diagnosing Autism

For a diagnosis of autism, problems in at least one of the areas of communication, socialization, or restricted behavior must be present before the age of 3. The diagnosis requires a two-stage process. The first stage involves developmental screening during checkups; the second stage entails a comprehensive evaluation by a multidisciplinary team.

Parents may notice their baby seems different from birth, unresponsive to toys and people or focusing intently on one item for oddly long periods. Yet autistic signs can also turn up in a toddler. Several screening instruments have been developed to quickly gather information about a child’s social and communicative development within medical settings. Among them are the Checklist of Autism in Toddlers (CHAT), the modified Checklist for Autism in Toddlers (M-CHAT), the Screening Tool for Autism in Two-Year-Olds (STAT), and the Social Communication Questionnaire (SCQ; for children 4 years of age and older). Some screening instruments rely solely on parent responses to a questionnaire, and some rely on a combination of parent reports and observation. Key items on these instruments that appear to differentiate children with autism from other groups before the age of 2 include pointing and pretend play. During the last few years, screening instruments have been devised for Asperger’s syndrome and higher-functioning autism. The Autism Spectrum Screening Questionnaire (ASSQ), the Australian Scale for Asperger’s Syndrome, and the Childhood Asperger Syndrome Test (CAST), are some of the reliable instruments that identify school-age children with Asperger’s syndrome or higher-functioning autism. These tools concentrate on social and behavioral impairments in children without significant language delay.

Treatments

One point that most professionals agree on is that early intervention is important; another is that most individuals with ASD respond well to highly structured, specialized programs. Treatment may also include medication as monitored by a medical professional.

Before you make decisions on your child’s treatment, you will want to gather information about the various options available. Learn as much as you can, look at all the options, and make your decision on your child’s treatment based on your child’s needs. You may want to visit public schools in your area to see the type of program they offer to special-needs children or having a shadow program. Which means a Behavioral Therapist shadows the child in a mainstream school setting. This is exactly what I do for a living and have seen all my children move onto to the next grade and remain in a mainstream school setting. In all my years of working in the school setting. California has one of the best programs to facilitate a child who has been diagnosed with Autism and can have one on one assistance from Kindergarten through-High school. This is from the insurance policies that again, California is the best in the USA for Autism Spectrum Disorder. To select the right treatment for your child, consider how successful the program has been for other children, whether staff members have training and experience in working with autism, how the activities are organized, how much attention each child receives, and whether the program enables the parent to continue therapy at home.

Three Major Therapists that are suppose to be the core team

ABA Behavioral Therapist

Speech Therapist

Occupational Therapist 

 

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Working with a BCBA. Insurance pays for this right after diagnosis 2 years old until 18 years old. This is how intervention helps. Get your child this intervention immediately and you will have it all throughout school years. California, Colorado and the Pacific Northwest are really the ones leading the way with this specific type of technique and assistance. Move if you have to these states and get your child the correct professional treatment for behavioral intervention.

(ABA), Applied Behavioral Analysis which has been around for more than 50 years. It is a highly structured, scientific approach that teaches play, communication, self-care, academic and social living skills, and can reduce problematic behaviors. There is plenty of research showing that it improves outcomes for children with autism.

The basic core of ABA is that we can break down skills into component parts and, through repetition and reinforcement, encourage learning. The approach relies on observing a situation and defining what would benefit a child, even when he or she may still be focused elsewhere. Through ABA we choose to teach them skills because we recognize their long term value. Yet behavioral therapy, as time intensive as it may be, remains the foundation of skill building for most children with autism.  For any child with autism, when skills appear behind peers or behavior remains disruptive, reconsidering the amount and type of behavioral therapy received is a fundamental first step towards a solution.

love, #krishna

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Intuitive Psychology: Why can’t people just be nice?

It is easy to understand the motivations to get along with others. Humans are incredibly social beings who need positive relationships. There really would be no chance of a society if people did not, by and large cooperate with each other and get along.

Yet, people quite often harm each other, on purpose.

But why is this? Why can’t people just be nice? Why do people so often want to hurt and harm others? Being mean, and for it to come out of the blue is like an emotional bullet, similar to a psychic Attack. Decades of research indicates that there is much truth in the belief that people are mean to others in order to feel better about themselves.

 

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People have a need to feel unique from others in positive ways. As humans naturally form community, groups, this need for positive distinction extends to the groups we all belong to. That is, we tend to view community or our in-groups more favorably than out-groups (groups we do not belong to). And as a consequence, we tend to see people who are not part of our group less positively than people who are. This is especially likely to occur when there is competition between the groups or when people feel like the identity of their group has been challenged.

 

Naturally people make comparisons to others. And these comparisons can often make us feel worse about ourselves or better about ourselves. As we generally prefer to feel good, we are prone to making downward comparisons, or comparisons that enable us to look down on other people. On this theory also supports the notion that people are more negative towards others when they have been insulted or belittled, and that this can make people feel better about themselves  or when compared to being told they were attractive, they rated others not only as less attractive, and also less intelligent and less kind, being insulted made people more likely to demean others.

 

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Ego Threat has also been discovered that it threatened self-esteem that drives a lot of aggression. In other words, it doesn’t really matter if people feel good or bad about themselves in general. What matters is that people, in that moment, are feeling worse about themselves than usual. This line of research has found that threatened self-esteem is associated with a wide range of heightened aggressive behaviors. When people are insulted, as opposed to praised, they are more likely to force another person to listen to obnoxious noises.

Whether it is as a means of promoting our social groups, or ourselves, we tend to be more aggressive when our self-worth has been challenged and we are not feeling particularly positive about ourselves.  When our self-esteem is threatened, we are more likely to compare ourselves to people we think are worse off than us, to see other people as having more negative traits, to degrade people who aren’t members of our groups, and to become more directly aggressive towards people in general.

When you insult or criticize someone else, it may say more about how you are feeling about yourself than the other person. And it is Insecurity over ourselves that drives much of the cruelty in the world.

To Healing,

love, #krishna

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Self Care for The Emotionally Sensitive

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Emotional sensitivity in truth is a blessing. If you have been told by others that you are too thin-skinned, that you wear your heart on your sleeve or that you feel too deeply, you are likely a misunderstood, emotionally sensitive person. The good news is that your emotional sensitivity is a core aspect of your authentic self and a strength that can be beneficial to yourself and to others. But to get the most out of your innate sensitivity, you must first understand it.

You are highly attuned to emotional energy when you are emotionally sensitive. You perceive a wider range and intensity of emotions than others. It may sometimes feel as if your emotions are magnified and may absorb the worry, stress, fear and sadness of others and feel it as your own.

Emotional sensitivity may not be a choice. But you can make a choice as to what and whose emotions and feelings you absorb. You likely are unconsciously absorbing the emotional energy of those who you love and care about and those who are in close physical proximity to. It is possible to shift your emotional receptors to feel the higher vibrations of love.

From the beginning of time, philosophers, poets, seers and teachers have spoken of the universal power of love. Emotionally sensitive people have direct access to tuning into and absorbing this higher aspect of love. Wherever you are, you can receive and absorb the positive energy.

To shift your emotional sensitivity from absorbing stressful and unhealthy emotional energy to effectively receiving the higher vibrations of love, try these steps.

Begin by making a commitment to yourself and informing the universe that you are no longer willing to be an emotional sponge for negative and detrimental emotional energy. As much as you may want to help others to heal or resolve their difficulties, know that feeling their pain does not dissolve it. In fact, it just makes it stronger. Even though it may not seem as if you have a choice, know that you do not have to be an emotional sponge for the free floating, emotional pain, negativity, stress, fear and anxiety that you may encounter in crowds, while in social environments.

Become aware of the people in your life whose feelings you are the most susceptible to absorbing. Realize that you do not have to be emotionally enmeshed with another to maintain a positive connection. This is not the same as shutting down or not being available to those who you love and care for. Instead, you are taking charge of your sensitivity and using it in a more beneficial way.

You likely absorb certain feelings and emotions, more than others. When unresolved fear, sadness or grief reside within you, you are more likely to feel it in others. Discover your emotional wounds and heal and release them. This will prevent you from unconsciously attracting and absorbing these emotions and feelings in others. 

Listen within to the inner voice of your authentic self. When emotions and feelings surface, ask yourself if this emotion is your own or someone else’s. If this is not your emotion ask yourself what the source of it is and let go of it.

Be compassionate and patient. You have likely been emotionally sensitive since childhood and it may take some time to sort through your emotions and get to the core of your genuine personal feelings. 

Have a source of positive energy in your life. Many find love, peace, and solace in a spiritual practice. Meditation, yoga, rituals, and quiet time in nature can provide you with the opportunity to  connect with the pure energy of unconditional love. Create a safe place in your home where you can relax, unwind and come into balance.

Be honest about your needs. Do not feel shame or embarrassment if you need more alone time than others. If you do not want to socialize in large groups or in an environment that feels overwhelming, graciously decline and take care of yourself. Others may not understand you, so it is especially crucial for your well being that you understand and have compassion for yourself. As you do this you will be able to be more present and available to the people and activities that are most important to you. 

To Self Care,

Kelly Krishna Dunn

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