Intuitive Psychology: Moving On after Breach of Trust

What is Infidelity? It is the breaking of trust that occurs when you deliberately keep intimate, meaningful secrets from your primary romantic partner.

I developed this definition because it focuses not on specific sexual behaviors, but on what ultimately matters most to a betrayed partner – the loss of relationship trust. That is the core of infidelity, and it is what must be repaired when cheaters hope to salvage a deeply damaged primary relationship. In fact, after more than 10 years as a behavioral therapist, I can state undeniably that the process of healing a relationship damaged by infidelity begins and ends with the restoration of trust. Moreover, to repair relationship trust, cheaters must not only come clean — in a general way, with the guidance of an experienced couple’s counselor about what they have done, they must also become painstaking honest about all other aspects of their life, both in the moment and moving forward. If or when your partner has NO willingness to work on this issue, it is NOT safe to move forward with them and no willingness equals no success.

Needless to say, this type of rigorous honesty is neither easy nor fun. And many cheaters will opt for a different approach, which is to continue lying but to try to do it more effectively. This tactic can work, too — for a while. But it does not address the underlying issues that led to the infidelity. Plus, cheaters who fail to get honest about their behavior tend to continue that behavior, no matter how devastating it has already been to their primary relationship. So if a cheater wants to finish off his or her primary relationship once and for all, continued lying is an effective way to go about it.

I truly believe that you could restore trust after infidelity if both partners are willing. But what happens when the other partner is NOT willing and still in denial, And the injured spouse or significant other chooses to move on to heal first from the betrayal and then the time comes where you do desire to open up to someone new in the present or future?

How do you know if this new person is going to repeat the infidelity betrayal cycle or maybe it is true that you could find or attract someone who has potential to remain monogamous and dedicated to one person which can be so helpful to restore trust again in life itself.

Where this post is going is really about How can you Trust again?

Once trust has been betrayed, most people will be less trusting the
next time. The degree of mistrust that is engendered varies between
individuals and with the sensitivity of a particular betrayal. Working professionally as an intuitive for over a decade and growing up in a military, law enforcement, and detective type of family, It is funny now how my ex-thought he could get away with what he was trying to get away with… But also being a clear empath the energy that was transferred into my aura and electromagnetic field, i must say that from an energetic perspective infidelity can be dangerous for the sensitive. However, over a period of time, your trust can be rebuilt with repeated positive experiences. For example, if your husband, boyfriend, lover, significant other is unfaithful, you won’t initially trust the next man you date. But, when a man consistently demonstrates his reliability, actions speak louder than words. These common but painful human experiences contribute to your growth and development.

Trust is at the core of all meaningful relationships. Without trust, there can be no giving, no bonding, no risk-taking.

Here are a few suggestions on how to Trust again…

1. The more slowly that trust returns, the better; slow trust is more likely to have a solid and durable foundation.

2. Be patient with yourself. Your trusting nature is not lost; it’s just a little bruised.

3. Those who are worthy of your trust, they have at least an intuitive understanding of this: Three of the four positive attachment emotions—interest, compassion, and love—are unconditional in healthy relationships.

4. But the fourth, trust, must be earned over time.

5. Focus on self-compassion and then on compassion for others, and you’ll find that trust will sneak up on you, in its own good time.

6. Last but not least…. This is the most important… TRUST YOUR INTUITION. 

Sending so much love, peace, and light,

To Healing,

krishna shoshana aka kelly


NFL Playoffs: Picks, predictions for Jaguars vs. Patriots | AFC Championship Game (1/21/18)

Welcome to the best Sunday of the NFL season! The New England Patriots host the Jacksonville Jaguars in the AFC championship today!

The Championship Round features a marquee AFC Championship Game today on Sunday, January 21, 2018 (1/21/18) when the Jacksonville Jaguars take on the New England Patriots at Gillette Stadium in Foxborough, Massachusetts.

Kickoff is scheduled for 3:05 p.m. EST on CBS.

The Jaguars are led by head coach Doug Marrone, quarterback Blake Bortles, and cornerback Jalen Ramsey. Jacksonville comes into the game off a Divisional Round victory over the Pittsburgh Steelers.

The Patriots are led by head coach Bill Belichick, quarterback Tom Brady and tight end Rob Gronkowski. New England is coming off a Divisional Round victory over the Tennessee Titans.

Time is up for the Jaguars’ magical run. It’s been nice while it lasted, but Tom Brady and the Patriots might strike the Jaguars back to reality in New England, where Brady is almost unbeatable in the playoffs. Yes, the Jags do have the pass rush capable of making things tough on Tom Brady, but he is now 18-3 in home postseason games. The Jaguars’ defense will be a tough test for Brady, but he’ll be able to overcome it.


We wish everyone good luck out there!!!

love, k




Intuitive Thursday Thoughts

According to Albert Einstein, “The only real valuable thing is intuition.” Why is that? Because our intuition is a unique, powerful, internal guidance system (much like a GPS) that guides us through every decision we face–if we will be aware, listen, and respond.

The voice of inner knowing exists inside everyone. As we trust our ability to become aware, listen, and respond, we find treasures of knowledge, answers to challenging questions, and solutions to some of life’s most difficult problems.

Developing our intuition typically happens in stages. First, we must become aware that this inner knowing exists. A personal sixth sense is activated by training your awareness to become sharper and receive more information from others. You begin this process by learning how to expand your consciousness and better understand the way your body takes in and responds to energy.

Intuitive living is the art of developing your awareness to be a highly sophisticated receiver of vibrations that will give you more accurate data to work with as you interact with people. As we begin to recognize our intuitive voice, we discover that it’s necessary for us to exist in an environment where we can hear it. This is the second stage–learning to listen.

When our lives (and our minds) are cluttered with static from the outside world (disruptive music, television, people, internet and telephone input, substance misuse, unhealthy eating, and negative communication) we become so overwhelmed that we often do not hear our inner voice. By simply “turning off” or “shutting down” disruptive energy and paying attention, we begin to connect to this powerful source.

Those who are best able to act on their intuition are people who live a balanced and peaceful life.

Why? Because when we have more peace of mind (which comes through balanced living) we are better equipped to take action (such as, we’re more trusting, less afraid, and not so controlling). So relax, exercise, and meditate. Don’t overwork and avoid any addictions. And be sure to know the facts and not be overly influenced by fears. Fears create illusions that often misguide and they typically leave us feeling more confused. Our intuition brings peace. So respond when you feel harmony rather than havoc.

Pay attention to your inner voice, listen well and respond. Take steps to clean up the clutter in your environment. Invite your inner voice to come forward and speak more clearly to you. See what happens, and take note of the answers and solutions that begin to flow from your intuition.

love, krishna shoshana aka kelly

Festival of Lights: A Great Miracle Happened There

Hanukkah is a time for giving and receiving presents and gifts. They are often given on each night. Lots of games are played during the time of Hanukkah. The most popular is ‘dreidel’

It’s a four sided top with a Hebrew letter on each side. The four letter are the first letter of the phrase ‘Nes Gadol Hayah Sham’ which means ‘A great miracle happened there‘ (in Israel, ‘there‘ is changed to ‘here‘ so it’s ‘Nes Gadol Hayah Po‘.

The Festival of Lights remembers the rededication of the second Jewish Temple in Jerusalem. This happened in the 160s BCE/BC (before Jesus was born). (Hanukkah is the Hebrew and Aramaic word for ‘dedication‘.)

Hanukkah last for eight days and starts on the 25th of Kislev. Because the Jewish calendar is lunar (it uses the moon for its dates), Kislev, the month in the Jewish calendar that occurs in late November to late December.

Happy Holidays!

love, #krishna

Rockefeller Center Tree Lighting

The Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree is a world-wide symbol of the holidays in New York City. The 2017 Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree was lit yesterday for the first time on Wednesday, November 29, with live performances from 7–9pm, at Rockefeller Plaza, between West 48th and West 51st Streets and Fifth and Sixth Avenues. Thousands crowded the sidewalks for the event and millions watched it live across the globe.

The Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree Lighting ceremony has become a national tradition hearkening back to the days of the Great Depression. On Christmas Eve of 1931, a group of construction workers put together a small, elegant Christmas tree on the site of what would become Rockefeller Center. In Rockefeller Center’s launching year, 1933, the first formal Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree Lighting took place. Since then it has become a national event including ice- skating spectacles, live entertainment and television specials.

The Tree will remain lit and can be viewed until 9pm on January 7, 2018. Check out the beauty, visit Rockefeller Center or watch the lighting from the comfort of your home.


Happy Holidays!!!

love, #krishna




Mummy Cake Recipe: Halloween Sweetness

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Halloween Vibes!

love, k 🙂

Autumn Series: Carve out some good times!

To inspire your own celebrating this season, sit for a spell and have some brew.

It is beginning to feel alot like Autumn! Holidays are right around the corner, ten days from today we will be witching you a Happy Halloween!

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Caution! Skeleton Crossing

love, k 🙂

Full Moon in Aries 

The Aries Full Moon asks us to gather our courage, make peace with our past, tap into our truest desires, and then leap into action.  
A Full Moon offers the potential for integrating two opposites; this current cycle is about integrating balance (Libra) and from this state of mental harmony, taking  spontaneous action (Aries).
Lift yourself out of whatever dilemma or decision that is present.  Step back, breathe, a diamond of clarity is available. A new and spontaneous perspective can be yours.

Aries Full Moon squares Pluto and this can lead to compulsive and destructive behavior as deeply buried feelings are exposed. It is difficult to control such intense emotions or reactions. Power struggles with authority figures, family or partners are possible and you or they may become quite ruthless. Relationship challenges can be turned into an opportunity to transform and evolve.
Gather your courage, tap into confidence, and from a secure and balanced center, make your move. This is a chance to let go and get   out of whatever mental game of ping-pong and take action. 
To take action, align with what you desire and choose it. 
Full Moons bring a high-energetic release that may feel like a celebration. As this Moon, Sun, and Mercury also point towards Pluto, this formation triggers deep dives into the shadow of our psyche, cathartic healing, and transformation. 

Release the past and welcome the future so you can move through this Full Moon in a way that’s empowered and decisive. 
Above all, don’t worry about what anyone else needs. Cultivate a balanced Libran mind … so that you can make the decisions you need to step closer to yourself. This gives your Aries “I am” experience an opportunity to prosper.

love, #krishna