Creating Strong Relationships

Happiness starts with Commitment. Whether it’s to your marriage vows, or loyalty to your significant other, an employer, a friend, family members, or to raising a child, success begins with the intention, the integrity, the determination to keep up with the relationship.

 

One thing that factors into any relationship is the power of choice.

 

We can choose successful relationships, which are built on a foundation of commitment, trust, exchange, a communication of looks, words, touch, scent, even connection is made, subtle or overt. A relationship has begun. Just as the secret of success in Real Estate is “Location, Location, Location,” in relationships it’s “Communication, Communication, Communication.”

 

Understanding and respecting the other person’s perspective, even if you don’t agree, and being willing to listen are essential if you want a harmonious relationship with anyone.

 

Love is the experience of selflessness within oneself and love is the power beyond the being because love is the totality of the being. There is no happiness without love.

love, krishna (kelly) 🙂

 

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Love is Respect

Healthy communication is important in every relationship, but especially after trust has been broken. When you are able to talk honestly with your significant other and feel that your partner, and you should feel secure in being open and honest then here are a few tips for healthy relationship.

Be on the same team. Your relationship may not look the same on the “other side,” but it is possible to build something new. It’s encouraged for both to be focused on building that new relationship together.

Stay “present-oriented.” One of the most difficult things about rebuilding trust is staying in the present moment and building toward the future, rather than living in or worrying about the past.

Trust yourself and intuition. This might be the most important thing to do. Learning to trust yourself, your own feelings, and that you’ll be protected moving forward is key to having a healthy relationship with anyone.

Before we can open to the flow of the Universe, we have to be open and honest with our self. We have to accept our self, and able to say, I trust myself, I love myself, I am myself. With that, everything flows toward you because you are vibrating as you.

Infinite Blessings,

k

Intuitive Psychology: Moving On after Breach of Trust

What is Infidelity? It is the breaking of trust that occurs when you deliberately keep intimate, meaningful secrets from your primary romantic partner.

I developed this definition because it focuses not on specific sexual behaviors, but on what ultimately matters most to a betrayed partner – the loss of relationship trust. That is the core of infidelity, and it is what must be repaired when cheaters hope to salvage a deeply damaged primary relationship. In fact, after more than 10 years as a behavioral therapist, I can state undeniably that the process of healing a relationship damaged by infidelity begins and ends with the restoration of trust. Moreover, to repair relationship trust, cheaters must not only come clean — in a general way, with the guidance of an experienced couple’s counselor about what they have done, they must also become painstaking honest about all other aspects of their life, both in the moment and moving forward. If or when your partner has NO willingness to work on this issue, it is NOT safe to move forward with them and no willingness equals no success.

Needless to say, this type of rigorous honesty is neither easy nor fun. And many cheaters will opt for a different approach, which is to continue lying but to try to do it more effectively. This tactic can work, too — for a while. But it does not address the underlying issues that led to the infidelity. Plus, cheaters who fail to get honest about their behavior tend to continue that behavior, no matter how devastating it has already been to their primary relationship. So if a cheater wants to finish off his or her primary relationship once and for all, continued lying is an effective way to go about it.

I truly believe that you could restore trust after infidelity if both partners are willing. But what happens when the other partner is NOT willing and still in denial, And the injured spouse or significant other chooses to move on to heal first from the betrayal and then the time comes where you do desire to open up to someone new in the present or future?

How do you know if this new person is going to repeat the infidelity betrayal cycle or maybe it is true that you could find or attract someone who has potential to remain monogamous and dedicated to one person which can be so helpful to restore trust again in life itself.

Where this post is going is really about How can you Trust again?

Once trust has been betrayed, most people will be less trusting the
next time. The degree of mistrust that is engendered varies between
individuals and with the sensitivity of a particular betrayal. Working professionally as an intuitive for over a decade and growing up in a military, law enforcement, and detective type of family, It is funny now how my ex-thought he could get away with what he was trying to get away with… But also being a clear empath the energy that was transferred into my aura and electromagnetic field, i must say that from an energetic perspective infidelity can be dangerous for the sensitive. However, over a period of time, your trust can be rebuilt with repeated positive experiences. For example, if your husband, boyfriend, lover, significant other is unfaithful, you won’t initially trust the next man you date. But, when a man consistently demonstrates his reliability, actions speak louder than words. These common but painful human experiences contribute to your growth and development.

Trust is at the core of all meaningful relationships. Without trust, there can be no giving, no bonding, no risk-taking.

Here are a few suggestions on how to Trust again…

1. The more slowly that trust returns, the better; slow trust is more likely to have a solid and durable foundation.

2. Be patient with yourself. Your trusting nature is not lost; it’s just a little bruised.

3. Those who are worthy of your trust, they have at least an intuitive understanding of this: Three of the four positive attachment emotions—interest, compassion, and love—are unconditional in healthy relationships.

4. But the fourth, trust, must be earned over time.

5. Focus on self-compassion and then on compassion for others, and you’ll find that trust will sneak up on you, in its own good time.

6. Last but not least…. This is the most important… TRUST YOUR INTUITION. 

Sending so much love, peace, and light,

To Healing,

krishna shoshana aka kelly

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Lake Tahoe – Squaw Valley

Lake Tahoe, the psychic, clear, aqua blue lake tucked into the Sierra Nevada mountain range. Our adventures to Tahoe has been an unforgettable journey in the summer and winter time. A place to call home as it is a place that welcomes the, adventurers and travelers to its laid back, and pine-scented atmosphere. Lake Tahoe keeps everyone’s interests awakened and holiday vacations active throughout the year.

The nation’s second deeper lake, is Lake Tahoe, California and shares with the other half of Lake Tahoe, Nevada. Attracting travelers from around the world mesmerized by the lake’s beauty and wealth of activities. This area keeps blossoming and embodies the American Dream’s concept of “having it all” Tahoe has it all. Mountain trail hiking in stunning Tahoe City, and to bask on sunny beach in South Lake Tahoe. In winter, shred out on snow-covered slopes of Squaw Valley. In summer, check out the mindful triathlon and yoga festival in Squaw Valley Wanderlust  Festival

 

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Explore the boutiques in Truckee. Try out different gourmet cuisines as you watch the setting sun into the lake in Incline Village… beautiful… we could go on for hours about Tahoe’s offerings. Every place to stay, every vacation rental company, tahoe real estate, attraction, entertainment, restaurant, casino, and native american magic.

love, #krishna